To Mrs. Lapp,

You don't know me, but I am grieving for you.

I heard about the accident that took your two sons lives. I'm sure your pain cannot be put into words and that no words can, or will ever, erase that empty feeling.
It brings me some comfort, and hopefully brings you some as well, to see the outpouring of love from your Amish nieghbors and community.  In my opinion, many of us so-called "Westerners" could learn a few things from the Amish.

After all, more than 200 members of your community went with you to the crash site to offer their love and support.  This community, these Amish neighbors, have seen more than their fair share of grief and hurt.    It is my understanding that you and your family live only a short distance from the site of the schoolhouse shooting not so long ago.

Perhaps, Mrs. Miller, who lost two daughters in that tragedy or Mrs. Stoltzfus, who had three members of her family shot that day, can offer you some sort of comfort.   The Stoltzfuses buried their 12 year old, but were able to offer immediate forgiveness to the shooter.  

You are right to surround yourself with people like this.

As for me, I have nothing but cliches and empty words.  Your boys, your babies, are gone.  I believe that you will see them again, but I do not know when.  And like many, I have no answer as to why this has happened.

May your deep faith help you through this dark and uncertain time.

~me