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Thursday, October 6, 2011

Are you reserving a space for me?

I have mixed feelings about this quote.  In some ways I think there is a lot of truth to it.

Being the only person making an effort to maintain a friendship will not work.

That being said, friendship takes work. 

You can't expect to stay friends without a little give and take.  In my opinion, the problem lies in the definition of "friend".

Let's clear it up.

A friend is someone you can share ups and downs with. 

A friend is someone who knows your quirks and likes you anyway.

A friend is someone who will listen to you ramble on about the problems you are having at work and nod in agreement with you.

A friend is someone who can order your lunch without asking what you want.

A friend is someone who hurts when you hurt.

A friend is NOT someone you sat beside in English class 21 years ago and haven't talked to since.

A friend is NOT someone who stops talking to you over a simple disagreement.

A friend is NOT someone who needs you more than you need them.

A friend is NOT someone who keeps track of wrongs.

Friendships come down to the golden rule, just treat other people the way you would like to be treated and most of them will do the same. 

The others, well, they aren't worth the effort.

6 random thoughts:

David Allen Waters said...

I agree a friendship is a two way street....both need work at it

hugs :)

Jenners said...

You came up with a pretty darn good definition of friendship!

Kristie Maynard said...

Great post! Here's another one, A friend is NOT someone who is swayed by the 'crap' others say about you.

tianac said...

Very awesome definition of friendship. It most certainly is a two way street.

This comes at a perfect time when a friend of mine is having difficulty with whether or not another friend is truly a friend. She needs to read your definition...

Visiting from Mama Kat's

DeepBlue said...

I agree. Friendship is such a difficult concept to grasp. I think it evolves along as we grow older... er... I'd rather say FURTHER on the path of life! ;)

It's mandatory to have guide lines as long as we keep in mind that, that's what they are: guide lines, and that life doesn't always follow them.

I have someone I hadn't seen and talked in 10 or 11 years, and we both really thought it was "over", but when she came at the funeral of my partner, it was as if we had never stop seeing each other: it was still "there"!

Some friendships defy all definitions!
Hugs
Jon

Pat said...

Friendship is like a tango: It takes two!

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