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Tuesday, August 23, 2011

RemembeRed: a magic piece of paper

Imagine, if you will, that you are given a magic slip of paper and told that you can write down your worst memory and it will be erased...forgotten...deleted.

Would you do it?

Would you write about the day your mother left and you saw your father fall to pieces?

Would you write about the time you had to coax your cousin away from her dead baby's casket?

Would you try to erase the pain of your grandfather's death from your grandmother's face?

Would you make sure the boy you loved like brother didn't get in that car?

No lie, I would be tempted. But I would throw the paper away because no good can come from forgetting.

All of our memories, the good ones and the bad ones, make us who we are.

Wishing away the day my mother left wouldn't make anyone happier. It would have stopped the end of the beginning of better things.

Erasing the pain I saw my cousin endure, well that would, in turn erase Baby Izack and I would never want anyone to forget him.

Shielding my grandmother from the pain of losing someone she spent most of her life with would deny her the gift of mourning, for we can only mourn those that we truly love. When the process is complete your pain fades (a little) and your smile returns when you remember them.

Would I make sure my "brother" didn't get in that car? I would want to, but doing so would change everything.

Our experiences are what shape us and we must continue to believe that, the good ones and the bad ones, all happen for a reason.

Even if that reason is often very unclear.

Inspired by a writing prompt at Write on the Edge

11 random thoughts:

Kat said...

Beautiful. Love this. And I completely agree. Though there are many memories that without thinking I wish I could erase, when I really do think about it I would keep them all. Each experience in our lives makes us who we are. The good and the bad. We learn from them all. So, while it may be tempting, I really DON'T want to forget.

Pat said...

Very though provoking... that is a good question and I don't know if I would write anything down.

Jenna said...

there's a lot of wisdom in what you've written, a lot of truth. Im sorry for the pain in the memories you gave us little snippets of, and appreciate your haring them as well as your perspective. *HUG*

Anonymous said...

this touched my heart. You know much of my history, and I will admitt I have opften thought I wish I could forget, but your thoughts today helped me realize that even the bad things have all come together creating the persaon I am today...and believe it or not I like me ;)


Rebel Chick said...

So true...our memories, good and bad, all serve a purpose and make us who we are.

Cheryl said...

Agreed. I wouldn't want to erase anything. Each memory brought me to where I am today, which is in a very good space.

Thank you so much for sharing.

Anonymous said...

Thanks for the reminder. All that things happen have affected what and who we are. Without them, good and bad, we would be a different person.

Not Just Another Mother Blogger! said...

Very insightful, and I agree completely!

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Kristie Maynard said...

What a powerful and honest post. I totally agree. There are things that is wish we hadn't had to endure, but like you said, they are what has made us who we are. But, you know, sometimes I'd just like to forget some things for a little while. Not make them go away like they never happened, but just not remember them for a bit.
Excellent piece! TFS!

Jenners said...

This was powerful and amazing and I'm so so sorry that you have so many painful memories. But I suppose we all do … and they are what makes us who we are today.

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