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Monday, March 21, 2011

Weekend update: A visit with my mother

I had a throw down, yell-at-the-top-of-your-lungs kind of fight with my mother last week.  It was ugly.  It was the kind of fight that you don't easily recover from.  The kind of fight that makes it hard to go back to the the way things were.

The good news about that is that I'm not completely fond of the way things were.  I'm not completely satisfied with our relationship and I'm hoping that by airing out a little bit of a ton of our frustrations we will be able to move past the ugly.

Past the things that happened in the past.  Past the disappointment.

I'd like to start fresh with her.  I'd like for her to be a more integral part of my childrens' lives. 

I'd like her to start keeping her word.

I'd like her to visit more.

I'd like her to be happy and content with her life.

She said she wanted to see me.  She said she wanted to come and visit this weekend and to see the kids.  She and her husband came out Saturday.  We had lunch.  We did a little shopping.  Oldest gave her a makeover.  We smiled.  We laughed.

It was actually a nice time...a good visit.

Here's hoping....

7 random thoughts:

Sheree said...

I just hate confrontation...but sometimes it is necessary to air things out to move forward than stay stuck in the past. I am proud of you.

Anonymous said...

thats the thing about wars, after they are over the only thing to do is rebuild :)

Becca said...

I'm sorry you guys got into such a huge fight but sometimes, like you said, it's good for ya to get things off your chest so that y'all can move on. I hope that things get better for y'all in the future!!

TortugaRachel said...

My fingers are crossed and I'm praying for you.

Jenners said...

My mom and I had our fair share of fights...and I am so glad that we were able to resolve things and get to a better place before she died. It would have been unbearable to me if we hadn't. Best of luck. It can be difficult I know.

Kristie Maynard said...

Well, it sounds like the ball is rolling in the right direction. And that's a good thing.

septembermom said...

I'm hoping for you too.

Confrontations with a parent are emotionally exhausting. I think it's great that you're trying to get everything out and hopefully heal your relationship with your mom. I'm glad that they're were smiles and fun with the kids too.

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